Written by Kirsten on November 6th, 2010
it’s still technically Friday because I’m still awake, right?
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how different my life would be if I were a parent. What I couldn’t do that I can right now; what I would do but don’t think to now; what I’d want to do to make sure that I was giving a kid the best life possible. Part of me feels like every minute should be spent in some kind of interaction, some supervised productive activity, some way to engage. But that’s just not realistic. Sometimes kids have to do their own thing. And it’s not always going to be edifying, or educating, or enlightening. Sometimes they just get to be kids. And that’s okay. No, it’s not okay to sit in front of a screen of some sort every waking minute. No, it’s not okay to refuse to ingest anything with any kind of nutritional value. But it is okay to have different preferences and tastes.
The trick is, finding ways to bring the two extremes together. Video games aren’t all violent, and movies aren’t all mind-numbing. Books aren’t all masterpieces, and good-for-you foods sometimes tastes like shit.
I’m learning.
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Written by Kirsten on November 4th, 2010

I’ve seen many bloggers say that what draws them to certain books or authors is good writing, and what causes them to stop reading a certain book or author is bad writing. What constitutes good writing and bad writing to you?
My idea of “good” writing is writing that makes me stop and re-read a sentence because of how beautifully or powerfully it conveys its meaning. Additionally, writing that breaks the conventions of “traditional” language structure as a part of the overall experience typically strikes me as exceptional, though it has to be well-crafted and consistent (Zuzak’s The Book Thief comes to mind).
“Bad” writing is tough to nail down, because while I don’t always think writing I don’t enjoy is “bad,” I wouldn’t call it “good,” either. I suppose standard, “He said this. Then they did this. The next day, this happened,” would technically be considered mediocre. For truly “bad” writing, I’d say poor syntax, redundancy, inconsistencies throughout the text, and underdeveloped characters or plot lines are all super pet peeves of mine. While a mediocre book’s author may get a second go-round if I liked the story, a bad book’s writer doesn’t get another shot. Life is too short to read bad books!
What are your thoughts? Share them here, or post on your own blog and drop me a link!
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Written by Kirsten on November 4th, 2010
There were a few factors that weighed in when I was deciding whether or not to return to Maine. One that has remained is my need to be a part of my youngest brother’s life. He’s 12, will be 13 in December, and he has Asperger’s Syndrome. It’s only one of several challenges he faces, and it’s one about which I know very little right now. I intend to read Temple Grandin, as I’ve heard that she is an incredible resource and powerful advocate for Aspies, but I’m hoping to find some local community, as well, or at least some online forum for support and advice. My brother is 100% tuned in to video games, has no interest in anything that doesn’t show up on a TV screen or monitor, has significant trouble communicating verbally, and refuses to eat vegetables. (Or potatoes – the kid is Irish. WTF?) I’m hoping to work on “unplugging” him via graphic novels based on the same stories as video games he loves, but haven’t yet had much luck (though I give major props to the guys at Coast City Comics – they were extremely supportive and helpful and showed me that generous and caring people do still exist in this world – if you live in Portland and ever want something they can get for you, please purchase it there – it’s a great shop with amazing staff.)
Do you know of a great resource for parents, guardians, supporters of kids with Asperger’s? Can you recommend a book, web resource, or individual who might be able to educate me and assist with my ability to give my brother what he needs? I don’t want the fact that I am a very verbal/word-based communicator to keep me from being able to connect with him, but I also honestly don’t know where to start. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Tags: Asperger's, parenting, teenagers, tweens
Written by Kirsten on November 2nd, 2010
Only once before have I attempted to start a book club. The other two women and I lived in three different cities, worked very different schedules, and had busy social lives; these ingredients do not a successful book club make. So for those of you who have participated in or organized book clubs, what would you recommend when kicking off a new one? What pitfalls can you advise against, and what tips have you found to be helpful in maintaining the energy? Have you read full books for each meeting, or segments? How many people do you think is a comfortable number that allows for everyone to be heard?
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Written by Kirsten on November 2nd, 2010
Given my current job, there’s always a lot of talk about what books are best experienced in print vs. which are done better justice on audio. I typically prefer print, as I’m an instant gratification kind of girl and can read much more quickly than anyone *should* narrate. I did, however, realize that there is the occasional exception when I listened to Emma Donoghue’s Room. I think that, like many who reviewed the book, I might have struggled with Jack’s narrative if it had been words on a page. Michal Friedman’s vocal interpretation was spot on, though, and I was engrossed from word one.
Similarly, there are some film adaptations that I enjoy far more than the books. For whatever reason, I really don’t love Nick Hornby’s novels, but have loved some of the films made based on his books (High Fidelity is definitely in my top five).
Have you found any patterns when comparing your appreciation for print books versus their audio or film counterparts? Is there a guaranteed formula as to which you’ll prefer?
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Tags: Audiobook, Emma Donoghue, Film, Nick Hornby, Room
Written by Kirsten on September 27th, 2010
I’ve had some great conversations about what makes a book YA versus adult fiction, and whether YA titles can be considered “literature” or if only books geared toward adults can achieve that level of writing. So, two questions -
What makes a book “Young Adult” to you? Is it the age of the protagonist? The writing style? The reading level? The cover art? (okay, that may be silly, but still – we’ve had misleading CD covers come into AudioFile and they’d be miscategorized one way or another if we didn’t check out the product details!)
Do you think books aimed at a young adult audience can qualify as “literature?” What about books that aren’t intended for YA consumption, but become “YA” because they find an audience there? Examples to go with your answers?
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Written by Kirsten on September 23rd, 2010

So in preparing a post for work today, I decided to count how many of the top 100 banned and challenged classics I’ve read. It’s embarrassing to admit, but I’ve only read a tenth of them! Granted, I’d say well over half of the ones I’ve not read are in my physical TBR pile, or on my wish list, but still. That is tragic. So, I’m challenging myself to read at least three banned books between now and October 2. Which means I have to find them. After I clean up the aftermath of last night’s crockpot lasagna.
What are some of your favorite banned/challenged books? Are there some you honestly can’t imagine why they made the list? Do you think it’s ever appropriate for a book to be removed from circulation?
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Tags: banned, challenged, classics, YA
Written by Kirsten on September 16th, 2010

Today’s question is suggested by Mae.
“I couldn’t sleep a wink, so I just read and read, day and night … it was there I began to divide books into day books and night books,” she went on. “Really, there are books meant for daytime reading and books that can be read only at night.” – The Unbearable Lightness of Being, Milan Kundera, p. 103.
Do you divide your books into day and night reads? How do you decide?
In the past, I’ve had at least one new book that I read during most of the day and a re-read for before bed, so if I get sleepy and forgetful I’m not really “missing” anything :) Lately though, I’ve only had one physical book going at a time – very rare for me – and whatever book I’m working on goes with me into whichever room I’m in throughout the apartment. My audiobook is for the walk to and from work, as well as for when I’m performing tasks like dishes, cooking, etc., and my hands aren’t free. So I suppose I determine what to read based more on convenience than the mood a book evokes.
How about you? Do you designate certain books for certain times? Do you feel certain books lend themselves to a time of day?
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Written by Kirsten on September 9th, 2010

You’ve just dropped your favorite, out-of-print book into a bathtub, ruining it completely … What do you do now?
Ack, terrifying question!!! First, I probably wouldn’t put a book like that in danger – I’ve worked very hard to obtain some of my books, particularly butch-femme and other queer works, and I know just how difficult they can be to find. My wish list includes many such titles, and I can’t even explain the excitement it creates when one turns up somewhere! This has actually prompted me to pipe dream of owning a small press that specializes in obtaining the rights to such books and running small batches every decade or so, to increase their circulation and accessibility.
Now, pretending that I actually would have done such a horrific thing, I’d likely first run to the computer and search for repair/preservation options and try everything I could find. Should the book truly end up an unreadable pulp (I’m crying a little bit, here), I would begin the hunt for a replacement on every site I know – swap sites like BookMooch, used/rare sites like Alibris, and monster aggregate sites like Amazon – and put in a word with all of my local independents that buy used books.
How about you; what’s your go-to for finding or replacing a rare title?
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Written by Kirsten on September 8th, 2010

WWW Wednesday is a weekly bookish meme, hosted by MizB of Should Be Reading. To play along, just answer the following three questions…
What are you currently reading? I’m reading The Perks of being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky, and listening to Brandon Sanderson’s The Way of Kings
What did you recently finish reading? I’ve just finished American Gods by Neil Gaiman
What do you think you’ll read next? I honestly have no idea; I have plenty of audiobooks lined up, but with most of my books still in boxes, it’ll likely be one of the other three I picked up at a yard sale on Monday – Three Cups of Tea by Greg Mortenson, The Boy who Dared by Susan Campbell Bartoletti, or Going to Meet the Man by James Baldwin. Anyone care to recommend one over the others?
What’s your WWW this week?
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